An Influential Rant; Featuring: The "Old-Fashioned" Virgin (Yeah. That's right. SEX.)

This past weekend I watched the ever-hilarious game show The Newlywed Game where three couples face off in the battle of "How Much Do You Really Know About Your Spouse?" Not only is this one of my favorite shows, but I also find myself entertained by the relationships between each of the couples, and gushing at their every gesture towards one another. But, as I was watching it recently, there came across a woman and her husband who had waited until they were married to engage in sexual intercourse for the first time. Now I am fully aware of people's contradicting views of this, but needless to say, my friend and I squealed of gladness when they were introduced. The thing that struck me though was when the woman was specifically asked questions about the roleplaying and activity that went on in the bedroom. For every answer to that category of questions, she produced some sort of response around the words "I dunno, I'm just really old-fashioned that way!"

So apparently not having experience in the bedroom constitutes that you're "old-fashioned?" Has our society developed so far into the functions of sex that we can't even fathom the idea of waiting for the right person to do it with? Now I'm not saying that ALL people that have sex before marriage (or even instead of marriage) have sex with the wrong person or a total stranger or whatnot, but would it really kill you to wait until you're bonded in holy matrimony to engage in something so special as that? It makes me kind of sick to think of what adults, let alone teenagers, of this day in age think sex means, if anything. What happened to the value in waiting? What happened to "I love you so much that I'm willing to wait if you are"?

Call me "old-fashioned" (I'm already starting to hate that phrase), but I think there's some truth to that. Isn't that what we people want in this world? To be loved and cherished so much that someone would go out of their way to sacrifice that? Are we seriously all so sexually excited and impatient that we can't just "hold off" until we can share something so special like that with someone you think is so special? Honestly, I see more harm in getting it on before marriage than after. Regrets, doubts, hard feelings? Wouldn't you much rather experience the joy of it for the first time with someone you love unconditionally than to "try it out" or use it as a means supposedly necessary for a relationship?

There are people out there that have the same morals and values as me, and I know it as well as anyone does. I'm going to continue waiting because when you truly wait for something like that, it becomes that much better and more precious in the end. I mean, I'm no love expert, but I can confidently say that love is not sex. Or just sex, for that matter.

"But what about the people that already do it all the time because that's what a relationship is all about? Making compromises for one another, right?"
*annoying wrong-answer buzzer sound*

No. False. I don't care what you do. I don't care if you have sex tomorrow for the first time "just cause" or if you plan on waiting to find someone you love and have sex right before marriage, okay? I. Don't. Care. All I'm saying is that you shouldn't feel pressured into doing it just because society apparently thinks it's "the norm." You should also not feel pressured if the person (male OR female) has already had sex before. "What if I'm not experienced enough?" or "I feel like I'm letting him/her down by not doing it!" Do not, I repeat, do not feel obligated to fulfill that desire. If you don't own yourself and value what you have or haven't done, at least imagine or pretend to value yourself. It all comes back to faking it until you make it. Cause honestly, I've been doing that for 18 years. That many years of my life I've questioned, gotten scared, been questioned, and even considered changing.

But ta-daaa! Here I am. Venting about abstinence on a dumb blog because I have nothing better to do and because I have a say in what life I get to live. I have control of it and I'm perfectly fine. We people exist and we don't have to be afraid to exist. Not being experienced really isn't that big of a deal if you don't let it become one.

My values might be different or "more strict" than yours, but at least I have something to lean on, ya know? And what do you have? A vagina?